Happiness

Week 7-

Progress.

I feel like a much happier person! I haven’t been reporting everything I have been doing step by step in this blog/diary, however, I couldn’t be happier with where it has taken me. I really feel a positive change in me and in the people around me. Things that I had to stop and think about before are coming naturally to me now. I am able to straight away start a conversation with a stranger, make new friends. I don’t hesitate to ask if people are okay or if they need anything. But the difference I feel has affected me mostly is being able to immediately identify my negative attitude and thoughts and change it for a positive, optimistic one.

I used to be very anti-morning person, but for the last seven weeks I have made it my habit to get up and straight away acknowledge ten things that I am thankful for. This improves my mood and it has a snowball affect through out my day, I find something positive in every situation I am in and this has contributed to a huge increase in my happiness. I am so happy!

Happiness

Week 6

In this weeks tutorial we talked about the importance of education in happiness and the difference between happiness and relief. This week’s topic really hit home because I have this continuously feeling that I am often wasting my life away, spending countless hours working instead of actually being me, being happy.

When I first started university, I began with a major in Creative Writing, which I absolutely loved, I was motivated and can confidently say I was happy to come to uni and learn. I handed my assignments in time and I felt like I was really doing and learning something I was proud of. However, as the term was coming to an end I started to doubt the possibility of combining this major with any financial work. I began to feel that although this might be what I love it was not the path for my future. I changed majors to Health Science where I felt obliged to study, I was tired and sad, I had no friends and felt no joy in the course, but I felt stability. Not long went by where I realized that I couldn’t simply slave away a few more years of my life to do something I wasn’t happy with. I picked and changed courses again. I wasn’t for another two courses that I am finally happy with the degree I am completing. I am unsure of where this will get me in the future. I can’t say that I will be rich, but I can say that I will be happy.

Relating this to my journal, I am so grateful for all the wrong choices I made because they were the right ones. Every road that I have taken has led me this far and I couldn’t be happier with my life. I have started to really appreciate my choices, my family, my friends and me.

Happiness

Week 5 –

This week we discussed random acts of kindness and how it benefits both parties. I started thinking about simple things I’ve been applying to my everyday happiness journey that implement my happiness. I began with things such as smiling at strangers, and holding doors opened. picking something up for someone who had dropped it on the floor, but as our discussion got deeper I started to realize that in fact I could do so much more.

In 2014 I decided to follow the footsteps of my older, graduated friend and travel. I was going to quit my job and I deferred university to travel with her through North and South America for almost an entire year. Few months  prior to our departure Vanessa and I had a falling out and our trip was put on hold, however, I had already made the decision of leaving both university and my job and those were two things I couldn’t go back on. I decided to tackle this adventure on my own and go regardless.

Looking back now, I started to realize that it was by arriving in a new, unknown country on my own that peoples random acts of kindness really meant to me. It wasn’t those who smiled at me or who picked up the pen I dropped on the plane that I remember (don’t get me wrong, they were also great!), but it was those special people who pushed and made that extra random act of kindness count, like approaching me and making a conversation, asking me how I was and if I needed anything, all I needed a friend.

This week specially has touched me and taught me that I can be that someone for someone else, I’ve started sitting next to other people in my tutorials that often don’t speak up much or don’t make much eye contact and I’ve started making more friends than I thought possible. I’ve really putting myself out there and I can proudly say I’ve loving it and I hope that maybe just for a little bit I am that person for them who makes a difference like someone was for me a few years ago.

Happiness

Week 4.

Last week we reflected upon the effect money has on our happiness.

People exaggerate the contribution of income to happiness because they focus, in part, on conventional achievements when evaluating their life of the lives of other. Nothing in life is quite as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it.

This made me think about the little poor town I came from and how happy I was and how I look around now and realise that people around me are stuck in this non ending circle of never being good enough, never being rich enough, never having enough things. They keep chasing things that are never reachable because theres no end to this vicious cycle.

This week I closed my eyes and gave myself ten minutes of silence where I focused on my breathing and allowed my thoughts to travel only to positive things and allowed me to show my gratitude through my meditation.

I send positive energy, prayers and love to Turkey, Brussels and the rest of the world as we all suffer and heal together.

I am grateful for today, I am grateful for being in Australia surrounded by loved ones who are save and happy. I am grateful for the opportunities that lie ahead and for the chance to help someone in someway to make their life, a little better.

Happiness

Week 3

This week I started by being thankful for:

My beautiful family
My friends
My health
My job
Being able to attend and enjoy university
For the well-being of others around me
For having the capacity to change
The endless opportunities that lay in front of me
For being loved by those around me
For being able to communicate with my family and friends overseas

I smiled at two strangers going out of the car park, I held the door opened for a student who struggled with her books, I felt happy about brining cookies and chocolate to class and wished I could do that in every other one of my classes.

I watched Patch Adams again and reflect on all the moments that made me happy. I want to be able to understand human beings more, I want to be able to help others understand that by giving more, will not make you have any less.

What I liked best about the reading this week was the part where it said ‘Nothing in life is quite as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it’, and that was extremely close to my heart because I once wrote a story and the whole focus to it was ‘99% of things people worry about, never actually happen at all’.

Looking forward to my tutorial this afternoon.

Happiness

Week 2

Stop thinking about myself and start thinking about others.

When I spoke about happiness last week, I only spoke about doing things for myself, things that make me happy. How did I never consider the fact that making someone else happy would improve my happiness a thousand times?

Ever since taking this subject, I’ve started to discover that my happiness is in fact, in other people. I’ve become happier by seeing others smile.

Health is based on happiness – from hugging and clowning around to finding joy in family and friends satisfaction in work, and ecstasy in nature and the arts – Patch Adams

This week in the tutorial I reflected a lot on my relationships and how essential and influential they are to me. I started to understand how the roles of friendship work, I’m learning how to embrace the best features in each of my friends, to allow them to embrace mine and cherish what we can bring to each other.

While writing down examples of friendships and roles, I was so overwhelmed by a feeling of gratitude that straight after class I sent all my friends a thank you message, just for being them.

I feel that was my first act of gratitude.

 

Happiness

12 ways to be happier

  1. Expressing gratitude
  2. Cultivating optimism
  3. Avoiding overthinking and social comparison
  4. Practising random acts of kindness
  5. Nurturing relationships
  6. Developing strategies for coping
  7. Learning to forgive
  8. Doing more activities that truly engage you
  9. Savouring life’s joys
  10. Committing to your goals
  11. Practicing religion and spirituality
  12. Taking care of your body

Started to think about all the activities that I can practice in order to increase my happiness. Right now I feel I could practice all twelve comfortably. But I’ve decided to pick one (or two, I’m very excited about this!) and focus on them, while still trying to maintain the others as well.

Expressing gratitude
Practising random acts of kindness

Firstly I will begin by writing ten things that I am grateful for each week, I will say them out loud and reflect upon them for a few moments and let it sink in and the positive energy to flow from me to everything and everyone around me.

I will take on a Patch Adams approach of learning and begin by doing random acts of kindness to both strangers and people I am close with, I will keep attempt to go out of my way to make someone smile at least three times a day.

I’m very excited to report on how I go.

Happiness

Week 1.

Introduction to happiness.

What is happiness for me?
Happiness to me means being able to achieve a self satisfaction in our every day life. Modifying things to suit our mood and benefit our well-being. This can be achieved by doing things we enjoy. In my case, I love reading, writing, singing, dancing and being with my family and friends. Those are things that if I have more of in my every day routine would improve my happiness.

However, things like stress, work, anxiety, fatigue, get in the way of achieving these simple tasks.

I feel in order for me to be happier, I have to become more organised, find time to do the things that I enjoy more. Find time to spend with people I love and start to embrace a little bit of goodness in everything that I do instead of focusing on the  negatives.

“happiness, more than anything, is a state of mind, a way of perceiving and approaching ourselves and the world in which we reside.”
― Sonja LyubomirskyThe How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want